This is just another one of those ‘rambling’ forays into the ever murky world of human society at large. I’m actually looking at this from the ‘generation gap’ perspective, or a ‘family’ view sort of.
So what is the difference between ‘needs’ and ‘wants’? Let me throw in a couple of my usual unclear definitions
here and say; a ‘need’ is an essential whilst a ‘want’ is a desirable. Yes, I know these terms span an almost infinite array of possibilities in everyday life, but hey, this is ‘my way’!.
On a more serious note, society of today seems to have completely merged these two terms into one, such that, what a person ‘wants’ is qualified as a ‘need’ and vice-versa. Look at prospective/established parents, they always go; “I want to have kids”, “I want to have the best for my kids”, “I want my children to follow in my footsteps”, “I want to have perfect kids”, etc. From wants; which are desirable but not essential, these thoughts/wishes/aspirations are suddenly transformed into ‘needs’ which are essential/achieve at all costs.
Ok, you say, what’s wrong with these strong desires? Isn’t having children and caring for them a natural part of our existence?
The negative I see is, upon closer examination, are we willing to do all it takes to see a ‘want’ through? Even if we initially convince ourselves that the ‘need’ is strong, when the fog clears (it always does…) and the need suddenly becomes ‘downgraded’ to a ‘want’, how far are we willing to go to make sure the consequences of our actions are seen through?
So in society today we have a multitude of children born out of ‘wants’ disguised as ‘needs’ who are left holding the stick, fending for themselves from tender ages because somebody realized they were not ‘ready’ after all. Who says these kids ‘need’ or even ‘want’ all these irresponsible parents anyway? What gives us the right to start things we don’t intend to finish? I think the rule remains: “if you can’t stand the heat, don’t go into the kitchen.”